Comments on: A Delicate Question

By: cooper

cooper — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I just hit the delete button. Feelings are far better saved and it is just a simple keystroke. I love the quote: “They won’t remember what you said, they won’t remember exactly what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel.”

By: Clark Goble

Clark Goble — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

If you use a statistical based SPAM filter (like Mail on OSX offers or I believe Mozilla on XP offers) then you can train it to delete the offensive posts from these people while allowing their good mail through.

By: Kaimi

Kaimi — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Perhaps you post on T & S (“How do you deal with a loved one who spams?”). Then you say to the loved one in question, “Have you seen my new blog?” :)

By: Logan

Logan — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I’m of the opinion that you can almost always say what you feel honestly in a way that preserves the feelings of both sides. The trick is to do it respectfully and in a way that affirms your relationship, but still says what you need to get across. Admittedly, it can be pretty hard, and sometimes, depending on the person, I haven’t been able to find that balance.

But something like this comes to mind (and you’d have to mold it to your own style): Hey, [loved one], it means a lot to me that you work so hard to keep in touch, and I like hearing from you. I just wanted to tell you that I’m not really into forwards and things like that. If you don’t mind, I’d rather not be on your forward list.

Like I said, honesty *almost* always works for me, as long as it’s done respectfully.

By: Renee

Renee — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I try a diplomatic reply with one or more of the following points:

1) I have a Yahoo account with limited storage.
2) Most emails encouraging forwards are urban legends or hoaxes. Please consult snopes.com before forwarding.
3) Forwards can end up in the hands spammers and they harvest all the email addresses. If you ABSOLUTELY must share the information in a forward, use BCC instead.

I put these in friendlier verbiage but that’s the gist of it.